What if We De-Personalized Conflict? Then What?

This week my nephew apologized for a posting on Facebook because he offended people with his strong opinions.  The actual post based on political viewpoints had caused several people to unfriend him. On Facebook, this doesn’t necessarily have long term effects. However, at work, it can and does. The challenge was that people who read his post and disagreed personalized it. This happens all the time in the workplace. This is common in the non-profit organizations that I’m called to work with as some team members have strong passions for...

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Judgmental Leadership Stunts Growth and Development

Lately, I’ve been finding the amount of judgment in the online world overwhelming. Comments about certain political leaders which are as critical and condemning as the leader’s original behaviour was. Judgment creates blocked energy which invites more criticism, less compassion and diminishes opportunities for change. Judgment and the negativity that goes along with it becomes a dark shadow that prevents growth. In the research of Rosenthal and Jacobson, teachers were falsely told that some of their students had been identified as...

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Have You Convicted Your Co-Worker of Being Nasty?

In a court of law, for some offenses there needs to be a clear intention to be found guilty of a crime. Yet in the ‘law of peers’ at work, people are often convicted of being angry, hurtful, rude without a trial. This is especially true with communication. How many times have you been in a vulnerable emotional space when reading an email or during a conversation and quickly leaped to the conclusion that the person did not have your best interests at heart or that they intended harm? Perhaps you decided they meant to be insulting, so maybe...

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5 Things to Review if you have Lost Your Compassion

Can you remember a time in your life when you needed more understanding and compassion than you received? If yes, then you know how challenging and even debilitating that can be.

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5 Ways to Be a More Compassionate Leader

When we lose our compassion, we become harsh, judgmental, angry, mistrustful, and may even act in passive aggressive ways. Can you relate to feeling and behaving in these ways?

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