What’s Making You Cranky?

We’ve all had those days when we have felt like a serious firefighter dousing “flames” of crisis through the day. Running from meeting to meeting and situation to situation making decisions right, left, and centre. Then by the time you got to your last meeting of the day, you found yourself being more abrupt and short than your norm aka cranky. Roy F. Baumeister coined the phrase “Ego Depletion” to explain this phenomenon. He felt we all have a limited resource to self-regulate that becomes depleted throughout the day. Basically,...

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You’re Fired … Or Not?

  I was coaching an Executive Director who was contemplating letting a staff member go, but when asked, the person had not been given the candid feedback that could enable them to make effective change. This is not fair to the individual, the team, or the organization. Let’s slow down here and look at some steps to take. Here are some things to ask yourself before you let someone go: 1. Have you spoken to them about the details of your concerns? If not, it’s past time to do so. Do a check-in with yourself to determine your...

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Urrgh! Not THAT Again?!

We all have them. Those annoying things we tolerate from ourselves and others. They have a way of simmering on low in the background of our minds, creating a low-level disturbance. Whether it’s your desk that’s cluttered, your computer has a glitch, or it’s someone else’s behaviour. Do you pride yourself on being a tolerant person? Do you tolerate your own bad habits? Do you tolerate less than acceptable behaviour from your direct reports or colleagues? The biggest challenge with these “tolerations” is that it creates stress in...

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Never Reprimand an Employee

During a coaching session with an inexperienced Executive Director, the advice she had received from a Board member was to “reprimand” her employee. As a team dynamics specialist, this sent chills through me. The energy of the word “reprimand” is one of parental, power, and control. And let’s face it, who wants to be to reprimanded or controlled? At the same time, I was reading Brene Brown’s book Dare to Lead and right at the chapter about shame. When we reprimand someone, we tend to shame them. And shame creates isolation and...

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Google Employees are Standing Up Against Inappropriate Behaviour – Are You?

Is there a “star performer” on your team that executives feel “we can't afford to let him/her go”?

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