I Wanted to Quit: When Supports are a Hindrance

I wanted to quit. I had exhausted all I had in me. My knees felt like they were going to give out. How much longer could I continue to hike down this mountain? When would I make it to camp? I couldn’t see it for sure, but there were buildings in the distance? Was that it? We started to play games like let’s agree camp is around the corner until we learn otherwise – and we kept going one step at a time. I’d fallen 3 times already that day and on the 4th fall I couldn’t get up with help. I had to find a different way because my right...

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Simple Moments and Gratitude

Last evening I held my lovely 3-month old grand-niece as she peacefully slept in my arms. As I looked at her peaceful face, I felt gratitude and pleasure. To be snuggled by her little body and know that she felt so safe in my arms – Ah, what an incredible gift! It’s so easy to get caught in focusing on what’s not right, what could be better and miss what’s working in our work and lives. We can often overhear conversations in coffee shops, restaurants and public spaces of people complaining about things. And we can all fall into this...

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Labyrinths and Inner Reflection

Yesterday I had the opportunity to walk a labyrinth at a dear friend’s birthday party. A labyrinth is a form of walking meditation; you release on the walk-in, receive in the middle of the circle, and then return from the centre to exit. My intention was on Abundance. As I slowly walked into the labyrinth and made my first turn, I looked down and saw a 4-leaf clover. I bent down and picked up that sucker. Later as I was talking with another friend who walked in front of me, she shared how she often searched for 4-leaf clovers and never saw...

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What’s Making You Cranky?

We’ve all had those days when we have felt like a serious firefighter dousing “flames” of crisis through the day. Running from meeting to meeting and situation to situation making decisions right, left, and centre. Then by the time you got to your last meeting of the day, you found yourself being more abrupt and short than your norm aka cranky. Roy F. Baumeister coined the phrase “Ego Depletion” to explain this phenomenon. He felt we all have a limited resource to self-regulate that becomes depleted throughout the day. Basically,...

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You’re Fired … Or Not?

  I was coaching an Executive Director who was contemplating letting a staff member go, but when asked, the person had not been given the candid feedback that could enable them to make effective change. This is not fair to the individual, the team, or the organization. Let’s slow down here and look at some steps to take. Here are some things to ask yourself before you let someone go: 1. Have you spoken to them about the details of your concerns? If not, it’s past time to do so. Do a check-in with yourself to determine your...

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